My name is Maria, and I am a woman who, back in 2016, knew absolutely nothing about crossdressing.

That year, after being married for 20 years, I went through a divorce.

A few months later, I began dating men again — with an open mind and a lot of curiosity.

In 2017, I met a handsome, kind, and sensitive man — let’s call him John.

We dated for a few weeks, and one night, when things started to get more intimate, he told me he wanted to take a shower and change clothes before we continued.

“Of course,” I said.

But then he paused. “Before I do, I need to tell you something. I love wearing women’s lingerie, and I brought a special set for tonight. May I…?”

He looked down at the floor, ashamed, waiting for me to reject him.

But rejection never crossed my mind. What I felt was surprise — and curiosity.

“Wow, really? Please, tell me more!"

"Are you saying you’re okay with that?”

He looked at me nervously.

“My goodness, what’s the problem? Please, show me!”

He opened a box with the most beautiful set of lingerie — panties, a bra, and stockings, all in deep burgundy tones.

“I can’t wait to see you wearing it,” I told him.

After his shower, he stepped out dressed in that stunning lingerie. I couldn’t help but laugh with delight:

“Oh my God, it looks better on you than on me!”

He was in his late 40s and told me this was the very first time he had dared to share his passion with a woman. He was terrified, so unsure of how I would respond.

I asked him dozens of questions — not to judge, but because I was genuinely curious to understand him.

And during that conversation, I realized something powerful: there are wonderful, complex, and beautiful people to discover when we allow ourselves to see beyond the clothes.

Around that same time, my professional life was also changing. I was leaving the corporate world and stepping into coaching.

Two important events guided me toward the work I do today:

✨ First, my child. At 16, one of my kids came out to me as transgender non-binary and asked me to use feminine pronouns. That was new for me too, so once again my curious brain went into “beginner’s mind.” I wanted to learn, to understand, to support. That pulled me deeper into the queer community — first as an ally, and later as a member myself, when I realized I didn’t identify as a straight woman anymore.

✨ Second, a chance meeting. At a networking event, I introduced myself as a confidence coach for the LGBTQ+ community. A man introduced himself to me as a crossdresser who ran an online community with thousands of followers.    

He said:
“I’ve been looking for someone like you to support them. I don’t have the knowledge, the tools, or the time to do it myself.”

In that moment, I felt the Universe reminding me exactly who I was here to serve — and where to focus my attention.

And here I am now: with a YouTube channel, a growing private community (safe and off social media), and a reputation as...